I know God can help, but I feel like it is too much to handle.

I couldn't even finish this page because I know that its true there's not a problem that can't be solved through God and Jesus Christ, but like the person in the story it does seem like that prob are too hard to bear (I can't spell). I'm very young in fact im only 15 and already I feel like there's no reason to live. I know that your prob thinking of a reason why only a 15 year old would have such a prob. that she thinks she can't handle but to me no matter the age there's probs. I go to church as often as i can well pretty close to that. I am Baptized and no matter what I do and no matter how much God makes that prob. go away it always comes back and I know that 98% of it is my fault, You see my dad and mom aren't married anymore and that's fine because i never knew what it was like for them to be together anyway. but her and I never ever get along no matter what we don't I try and it just makes it even worse I feel like my sister is perfect in my moms eyes she has good grades she the twirler for the high school and I'm just the drum major for the jr. high my grades aren't all that great and I'm always so upset that I feel there's no reason to be here. I'm like crying right now because my mom and I had 1 of our many fights and im just so hurt right now. I really see no reason to live besides my cute lil boyfriend who my mom won't let me see since he is 17 and I know that I will loose him since he likes to see who he's dating. He's the only person besides God that makes me feel like im a real person and that I do have a reason to live. My mom wants me to move in with my dad since she take the heart ache I bring her and really and truly I don't think my dad wants me since he didn't want kids in the 1st. place. I feel like im just stuck with 1 of my parents at the moment and a 15 year old young person shouldn't feel that way but I do I really do and its not just like this 1 or 2 times a month its like this every time I want to do something with a friend boyfriend or anybody. I hate this life and I hate being used all the time and most of all I hate hurting my mom but she living with a guy that I really don't get along with knows it and doesn't even care because we don't have much money and she couldn't live without his pay check coming in but she wont marry him because she wont get the money that my dad has to give her when she retires and i just found that out like 30 min ago. All of this is killing me inside and I feel like I'm stuck. Im sorry for bothering you with my prob. but I really needed help and I hope that you have the time and or an answer of what I should do because I cant do this anymore I can't live this way its too much for me.

My response is in Green:

Thank you for writing me. I do understand how a 15 year old could feel like there is nothing to live for. Just because you are young does not mean you don't have terrible problems. I am very sorry that your life is like it is. I can't do anything about that, but I know who can and so do you. Jesus is now powerless, He is all powerful. If you have a relationship with Him, then it does not matter how many people on this earth are against you, because the God of the universe is on your side. He will not forsake you or leave you. I want to give you a couple of my favorite verses because I think maybe you could use them too. (Isaiah 40:28-31 NIV) Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. {29} He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. {30} Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; {31} but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Notice verse 30, God understands that even though you are young you are struggling and that it can get the best of you. He also promises that He will give you strength.

(Isaiah 41:10 NIV) So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. If God is holding your hand, what do you have to worry about? The problem is that we quickly forget who is on our side and who is looking out for us. That does not mean, as you already know, that you won't have any problems, but it does mean that you don't have to deal with them alone.

Here is another thought that you should keep in mind: (Ephesians 6:12-13 NIV) For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. {13} Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. The problems and concerns you have and the thoughts that you would rather be dead are all part of that battle.

People often wonder how their depression and problems can be part of a larger battle between Satan and his kingdom and God and His Kingdom. The answer is simple; if you are a Christian then you are what I like to call a Marine for Christ. You are in His army. You have the responsibility to witness to others so that they can find eternal life just like you did. Part of that witnessing is just living a life that people will see and want what you have. Now if Satan can come in and destroy your life and make you miserable, he can keep you from being a witness. After all who wants what you have if you are miserable? The world is already miserable they don't need God if He doesn't help them in that respect.

Second and I think this is an area that Satan is actively working in our time; if Satan can get you to kill yourself he has won a small battle. Satan could really care less about you. What he is after is a way to hurt God. Christ sealed Satan's fate on the cross. Satan is a defeated enemy and he knows it. He knows that his time is getting very short. There is no possibility of salvation for Satan or his demons. God did not provide any forgiveness for them That is one reason they hate us so badly and why they hate God so badly.

Satan is a defeated foe, but that is not the same thing as a powerless foe. God has not seen fit to stop Satan, in fact God's word calls Satan the god of this world. That means he still has a lot of power. So what can Satan do to hurt God? Not much, God could wipe Satan out anytime He wants to. Yet I think Satan has found a way to hurt God and that is through us.

The point is that God loved us enough to send His only Son to die for us. He wants us to have a relationship with Him and be able to spend eternity with Him. Now if Satan can keep people from having that relationship with God, then in a way he has grieved God. So if Satan can cause a Christian not to be a witness that will cause less people to come to Christ and again that is not what God wants for us.

Don't let Satan make you a victim. Keep fighting and keep your eyes on Jesus, He will help you. You can't do much about the way other people act or treat you, but you can do something about the way you react when they treat you badly. You have to also realize that you are right now in the most difficult years of your life. You need Jesus more now then ever before, so don't give up now. Get other people to pray with you and for you. There is nothing like having other Christians help support you.

Well I hope I helped a little bit. Take care and feel free to write back.


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