What if life just sucks and you can't handle the pain anymore?

And what if you commit suicide and you are judged, but you have never done drugs, had sex, etc.? What if life just sucks and you can't handle the pain anymore. What if it is the kind of problem that WILL NEVER GO AWAY (and I know YOU think it will, but it won't)? Then WHAT? About looking to God... well, I used to look to God and pray and stuff, and I still do, but it hasn't helped me at all. God doesn't help me anymore, sometimes I'm convinced he hates me or just likes toying with me for no reason at all. And don't tell me that "God is testing me", because I won't accept that. And even if that were true, God knows as well as I that I am weak and pathetic. (Please don't tell me that I HAVE THE POWER).... I'm sorry if I sound mean, I'm really not, but I feel like I'm dying anyway...

My response is in Green:

Thank you for writing me. Don't worry about sounding mean, you don't. You sound like someone in a lot of pain. I too am afraid I will sound like I am mean, but I want you to know I do care. I just have to tell you the truth. You may not like everything I have to say, but I am sure you would want the truth not some candy coated message that was worthless. I don't know any other way of speaking to people than to be blunt, so forgive me if that makes it seem that I am uncaring, that is not true. If I did not care I would not waste my time posting my page and responding to those who write me.

Let's start with your first question, what if you are judged and you have never done drugs, had sex, etc... Let me show you what the Bible says about that: (Romans 3:22-23 NIV) This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, {23} for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God... See we have all sinned in one way or another. People tend to grade on a curve. They say, well I have not done this or that like a lot of people have, but they over look the things that they have done. Sin is sin and all of it is an offense to God.

That is the very reason that God sent His Son, Jesus to earth to die for our sins. We were all under a death sentence and there was nothing we could do about it. We were under the death sentence because of the sin in our lives. My whole point here is that even if you have never murdered anyone, used drugs, had sex outside of marriage, etc... you are still guilty of sin. That is the bad news, but the good news (which by the way is what the word gospel means) is that Jesus has already died for those sins. All you have to do is believe in Him. Believe that He is God, that He came to earth as a human (while remaining God). That He died for your sins, that He arose and is now is heaven, and that if you ask He will forgive you and give you eternal life. If you believe that then all you have to do is ask Him.

I went through all that for a couple of reasons. First it addresses your first question, but it also addresses the rest of your questions and comments. You said you use to look to God and pray and that you still do but it does no good. Well if you have not asked Jesus into your heart as your savior as I described above, then you are not a child of God. What that means is that He is not listening to your prayers. God usually only answers one type of prayer from someone who has not accepted Jesus into their heart and that kind of prayer is a prayer for forgiveness. Until you are right with God, He does not treat you like a child of His.

This might seem cruel of God, but if you look at it from a eternal perspective it makes sense. He knows that if you don't accept Christ before you die you will spend eternity separated from Him in hell. His holy nature demands that He judge you for your sins, unless the price has already been paid in full. The only way it can be paid in full is through Jesus Christ. So if you think of eternity, you will realize that nothing is more important than getting right with Jesus. So why would God deal with our problems here on earth in this life until He gets us to wake up and deal with out death sentence?

You may not realize it but all of your problems can be traced back to sin. I don't mean that you have brought on your own problems, although, that is very possible. What I mean is that the problems we face as humans are all due to the fallen state of the world we live in.

You asked: "What if life just sucks and you can't handle the pain anymore. What if it is the kind of problem that WILL NEVER GO AWAY (and I know YOU think it will, but it won't)? Then WHAT?" You know what in the past my life sucked too. I thought about suicide, I thought it would be a way out. A way to get rid of the pain. Those are all lies Satan tells you. He would love for you to kill yourself, because that would seal your fate.

You also claim you know I think your problem will go away. You know some problems won't go away in this life, some we are stuck with. Paul even had one of those. He prayed that it would be taken away, but God refused. Here is what God said: (2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV) But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." So it is possible that you are right and your problem won't go away. Yet, many times we are so blind by our own pain that we don't realize that our problems can be taken care of. Either way, the answer is still God. He loves you and He cares about you and your problems. But like I said, He will only deal with eternity first, then with the other problems. If He does not take away your problems, then He will walk with you and help you deal with them. Here is one of my favorite verses: (Isaiah 41:10 NIV) So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. And here is another one of my favorites: (Isaiah 40:28-31 NIV) Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. {29} He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. {30} Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; {31} but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. God does not lie, He will help you.

You said not to tell you that you have the power. I won't because you don't have the power. You can't do it by yourself. Neither can I nor anyone else. Why do you think that so many people who look like they have everything commit suicide? Because their lives are empty. Look at Hollywood, these people seem to have everything. What kind of problems could they have? They have fame, money, etc... Yet they turn to drugs and suicide. Why? Because the one thing they need, they don't have, and that is God in their lives.

Am I preaching at you? Yes I am, but like I said I will only give you the truth, I will not candy coat anything for you. If you die (whether by your own hand or by other causes) and you don't know Jesus Christ personally as your savior you will go to eternal torment in hell. At that point whatever problems you have today will seem like a walk in the park, believe me! There in no problem you have that won't be instantly taken care of when you die. Either it will pass away and be forgotten because of the wonderful place God has prepared for you. Or it will be gone because it will seem insignificant due to your eternal punishment. The choice is yours.

The very last thing you said was that you feel like you are dying. You are, we all are, but that is not a problem if you know Christ. Please at least give God a chance. I am no way trying to make your problems out to be minor, but I know God is able to help you.

Please feel free to write back. Again I am sorry if I seem as if I don't care, I do care.



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