Ralph I was wondering if you can help me... I'm wanting to commit Suicide yes I'm a christian. yes i belive that JESUS IS LORD and he died for our sins. But i can't take it any more .. I've met this girl and i truely cared for her more than any other girl. I actally felt what real love is. and it felt soooo good but she leves me she says "I'm burnt out on the relationship" and when i do decide to kill myself i want to shoot myself next to the heart. because i belive i should suffer... I don't want to be here any more i want to talk to GOD and ask why! I've been to drs and they came up with that im ADD, ADDHD, BYPOLOR, CHRONIC DEPRESION, and SUICIDE what should i do I'm debaiting on killing myself this weekend HELP!!!
My response is in Green:
It is time for a wake up call. You need to wake up and realize that if you kill yourself you will spend eternity in hell, separated from God's love. You can say that you are a Christian and you can even give the right description but unless you are following Christ it means nothing. Are you following Christ? Is He first in your life? No, your message to me made that perfectly clear. You are number one in your life, not God. How do I know that? Because you are ready to kill yourself because a girl dumped you.
I am sorry that you broke up, and I know how painful that can be, but I am going to tell you straight up that it is not worth your soul. If God was first in your life, you would still have the pain of that break up but you would have God to help you through the tough times. You said for the first time you knew what real love was all about. Well what about the love that God showed you when He sent Jesus to die for your sins? What do you call that?
You also said you wanted to talk to God and ask Him why. Okay, why don't you? You certainly don't have to kill yourself to talk to God. That is what being a Christian is all about, it is a relationship with God. So if you don't have a relationship with Him, then you are not a Christian and that is where you need to start. Suicide is a sin. Get on your knees and ask God to forgive you and to help you.
I don't care what the doctors say. Your problems are not all those things they are telling you. We all have struggles, that is part of being human.
Let me give you some passages to think about: (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NIV)  Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;  you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
(Romans 14:79 NIV)  For none of us lives to himself alone and none of us dies to himself alone.  If we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.  For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.
It is pretty hard to honor God while you point a gun at your heart. The second passage from Romans tells us that it is up to God when we live and when we die. We live for Him or we die for Him, but we don't make those decisions ourselves. If you decide to kill yourself, you need to understand that you are thumbing your nose at God and telling Him that you want to be god in your own life and you could care less what He wants. Do you really think He will open His arms and welcome you into heaven with that attitude? I don't. You need to get right with Him and start living for Him. If you do He has a plan for you. It might be with this girl or it might be with someone else but you will never know until you get right and allow Him to run your life.
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